Body: [bod-ee] noun. 1. The material structure of a corporal being. 2. A collection of work.
Indulgence: [in-duhl-juhns] noun. 1. Gratification of desire. 2. A penance sold by the Church
as a remission of punishment for sin.
Reblogged from firebeatsroses-1x1
Last month, a New Jersey middle school banned girls from wearing strapless dresses to prom. Administrators claimed that the dresses were “distracting” — though they refused to specify exactly how or why. Parents reacted strongly to the rule; some supported the dress code while others deemed it “slut-shaming.” On Friday, the school compromised by allowing girls to wear single-strap or see-through-strap dresses.
This is no isolated incident in the United States. Across the country, young girls are being told what not to wear because it might be a “distraction” for boys, or because adults decide it makes them look “inappropriate.” At its core, every incident has a common thread: Putting the onus on young women to prevent from being ogled or objectified, instead of teaching those responsible to learn to respect a woman’s body. Here are five other recent examples:
1. A middle school in California banned tight pants. At the beginning of last month, a middle school in Northern California began telling girls to avoid wearing pants that are “too tight” because it “distracts the boys.” At a mandatory assembly for just the female students, the middle school girls were told that they’re no longer allowed to wear leggings or yoga pants. “We didn’t think it was fair how we have all these restrictions on our clothing while boys didn’t have to sit through [the assembly] at all,” one student told local press. Some parents also complained, leading the school’s assistant principal to record a voicemail explaining the new policy. “The guiding principle in all dress codes is that the manner in which students dress does not become a distraction in the learning environment,” the message said.
2. A high school principal in Minnesota emailed parents to ask them to cover up their daughters. A principal in Minnetonka, MN recently wrote an email telling parents to stop letting their daughters wear leggings or yoga pants to school. He says the tight-fitting pants are fine with longer shirts but, when worn with a shorter top, a girl’s “backside” can be “too closely defined.” The big risk of having a defined backside, he thinks, is that it can “be highly distracting for other students.”
3. Two girls in Ohio were turned away from their prom for being “improperly dressed.” Laneisha Williams and Nyasia Mitchell were barred from prom this spring for wearing dresses that administrators considered “too revealing.” The girls say that they didn’t believe they were violating a dress code that said dresses couldn’t be too short or show too much cleavage. But one administrator told local news that the high school girls were only allowed to wear dresses that had “no curvature of their breasts showing.”
4. A kindergarten student in Georgia was forced to change her “short” skirt because it was a “distraction to other students.” It’s hard to imagine that a kindergartener’s outfit could be “a distraction to other students,” but a mother in Georgia told locals news there that her daughter had been outfitted in someone else’s pants — without parental permission — after the principal deemed the skirt the young girl was wearing too short.” The girl had apparently wore the skirt, and accompanying leggings, just one week before without incident.
5. Forty high school girls were sent home from a winter dance in California after “degrading” clothing inspections “bordering on sexual harassment.” A school board member’s daughter was among the 40 girls turned away from Capistrano Valley High’s February dance for wearing dresses that either exposed their midriffs or were cut too low. Before the dance, girls were apparently required to flap their arms up and down and turn around for male administrators’ inspection. The school issues image guidelines for appropriate dress on its website — though the images were nearly all of women, and the only male image depicted proper attire. One girl alleges that the principal told her, “Not all dresses look good on certain body shapes.” A grandmother of one of the girls who was turned away from the dance also said that a teacher remarked about her granddaughter, “What mother would allow her daughter to wear a dress like that?” Apparently the school did receive some praise, though, from the parents of two male students.
When most Americans think about “rape culture,” they may think about the Steubenville boys’ defense arguing that an unconscious girl consented to her sexual assault because she “didn’t say no,” the school administrators who choose to protect their star athletes over those boys’ rape victims, or the bullying that led multiple victims of sexual assault to take their own lives. While those incidences of victim-blaming are certainly symptoms of a deeply-rooted rape culture in this country, they’re not the only examples of this dynamic at play. Rape culture is also evident in the attitudes that lead school administrators to treat young girls’ bodies as inherently “distracting” to the boys who simply can’t control themselves. That approach to gender roles simply encourages our youth to assume that sexual crimes must have something to do with women’s “suggestive” clothes or behavior, rather than teaching them that every individual is responsible for respecting others’ bodily autonomy.NEWS FLASH: It is not a woman’s responsibility to monitor ANYONE’S sexual drive/desires/actions BUT HER OWN. It is high time we started teaching the perpetrator’s of sexual harassment/assault not to commit such acts instead of placing the responsibility on the victims by trying to teach them how to avoid being victimized. FUCK SLUT SHAMING.Rocket science, I know.
Reblogged from ijustwishthereweremarksforit
men at large feel like they are being robbed of something when an attractive woman with a 90% chance of developing breast cancer gets a double mastectomy
what better illustration of the male sense of sexual entitlement do you need
This is similar to the way a lot of customers feel somehow cheated when a dancer has a scar from a C-section, or other surgery.
Response most of the male population is looking for:
"I’m so sorry my life threatening situation deprived you of the completely unattainable standard of physical perfection you know every woman should spend her life striving to achieve. I knew I should have let my child die/succumbed to cancer rather than acquiesce to the presence of a scar on the flawless body that is owed to you! Can you ever forgive me??"
Reblogged from dresdenlowe
i just thought this needed to be pointed out to the tumblr community.
these are all photoshopped by enrico francis
it needs to stop.
Dear Enrico Francis Photoshop extrordinare,
STOP FUCKIN PHOTOSHOPPING BEAUTIFUL WOMEN AND MANIPULATING THEIR BODIES AND FACES INTO UNNATURAL BARBIE LOOK-A-LIKES.
1. youre not very good at it. the manipulations you make are so fucking freakish that all i have to do is glance at your photos and know that its not real.
2. the natural beauty of these women is so profound that the fact that you feel the need to photoshop them is fucking INSANE.
3. we do not need another fucking shit putting these unrealistic expectations of women (and men, cause you shop them too) into the world. its not right. you know its not, i know its not and tumblr knows.
So Enrico, I beg you please give it a rest. be a good fucking human being and stop. learn to be a true artist and enhance the beauty youre working with as opposed to completely warping it.
and if you dont i will continue to publish your shitty photoshop all over this fucking website.
This is disgusting.
FOR ONCE SOMEONE INCLUDED WOMEN OF COLOR.Thank God. Its good for people to see how this is done to women in the industry. sickening, but true.
Anyone else notice with the women of color, they narrowed their noses? And that none of the white women’s noses were altered?
(Yes I am annoyed at the other things they narrowed but.)
Remember folks, when studios edit for beauty standards, they’re editing for WHITE, EURO STANDARDS.
They fucking gave those beautiful women of color a white woman’s nose.
I was LITERALLY going to say the same thing
That nose bullshit is for the birds
They look SO MUCH FUCKING BETTER with rounded off noses, fuck that pointy shit god damnit
they photoshopped women in the BACKGROUNDThis shit actually just brought me back down to earth because wow that Selena Gomez one is fucking bonkers. He photoshopped the woman in the background. He photoshopped a literally faceless nobody because they want this ingrained in your head- that impossible thinness, that perfectly sculpted arms and abs are the norm, what is expected, just the minimum prerequisites of being a woman in society. They want to let you know that even if you aren’t the star of the show, all eyes are on you, and they’ll eat you alive if you aren’t as skinny and pretty as the cash cows. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t being paid to let people watch you on screen: they’re still watching you from behind the scenes and you’re done for if your arms jiggle. God save you if your armpits are fat.
Generally when I reblog anything, I try to keep all the comments to a minimum to keep all of our dashboards as clean as possible. But every comment that’s been made is so valid and accurate that I can’t bring myself to delete, or add, to anything.
Basically, this is everything that’s wrong with the world in terms of social programming. It’s all pervasive, infectious and one of the most insidious things on earth. Makes. me. sick.
Reblogged from dolphinstagram
don’t be too clingy
don’t be such a ‘girl’
be a woman
but be hairless like a child
don’t wear skimpy outfits
don’t be such a ‘slut’
but take it off when i ask
don’t assert yourself
don’t be such a ‘bitch’
be nice to me
but don’t be a fucking doormat
don’t be ignorant
don’t be such a ‘bimbo’
but don’t argue your opinion with me
don’t wear make-up ever
don’t be so ‘insecure’
but don’t complain if i don’t like it
Sexist hypocrisy 101